We’ve been together for a while and have been moved in/living together for two years. We used to have sex everyday and several times a day when we first got together but that’s normal for new couples.
We are 23 so we’re still young. However we had issues with ED for a while too due to one of his medications. It was a symptom. He changed medication to one without that issue but it hasn’t changed much.
I’ve brought it up to him and he said “well you only want it when it’s late and I’m tired” but that’s bc we work and get home late and eat then go to bed. What other time would we have?
One day he sent me a picture (of a certain kind if you get the gist) and I thought, well maybe when I get home we can finally have sex again! As he seemed to be in the mood, but nothing. I tried to start things and he just said “no I’m tired”
He does show me love in the ways he understands. He can’t always give me touch as that can sometimes be an issue with him due to his Aspergers, but in his own way he’ll try. He’ll do dishes or clean/pick up. Which I do all the chores mainly so it’s a big help. I know he loves me and he stresses that he does. I just don’t know how to bring this specific issue up.
Last time I did it turned into an argument from his end. Claiming that “I’m never enough, or I never do enough” or “what else do you want from me, I can never make you happy” and he totally misunderstands what I’m saying.
I know due to his Aspergers that can happen and communication is difficult. Most wont understand that without understanding Aspergers and I just don’t know what to do.