Your write-up described my husband and me perfectly. I am an Aspie. There, I said it. He is NT. We have a continuous on and off battle of his need for physical intimacy, and my hypersensitivity to touch. It seems like we are polar opposites when it comes to any physical interaction. Your “communication roundabout” analogy makes sense, and it’s an accurate analogy!
So, how does one break out of the circle, and take an “exit” so to speak? I am assuming that as the Aspie I would need to learn how to anticipate his physical needs, which I can do. The struggle comes when I have to force myself to act on them. He takes it personally, thinking that I don’t like to touch him. I DO, I just don’t know how to get beyond the hypersensitivity piece.
Sometimes I feel like I should live in the woods by myself and just forget trying to have a relationship. I just don’t get them. I really feel alone.
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