Hello! I am new here. My husband was diagnosed with Aspergers, although he refuses to accept the diagnosis. I find it helpful for me to attend counseling, so that I can better understand him and his reactions. I have also recently convinced him to go to couples coaching, with an Aspergers expert In our area. We are also trying a video couples counseling group for “Neurodiverse” couples.
I would encourage you to find a trusted Aspergers expert (not just a regular counselor) who can listen to your experiences, and give you some advice/relief. It is very emotionally lonely to be in relationship with an Aspie.
I wish you the very best.