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What Should You Do If Someone You Know Has Autism?

What You Should Do If Someone You Know Has Autism
You can be helpful to someone with ASD by being supportive, empathic, and knowledgeable about autism.


Autism is a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects communication, social interaction, and behavior. It is crucial to understand that individuals with autism experience the world differently. If you have a family member, friend, or colleague with autism, it’s essential to be supportive, empathetic, and knowledgeable about their unique needs. In this article, I will suggest practical steps you can take to create a more inclusive and understanding environment for individuals with autism.

1. Educate Yourself About Autism

Understanding autism is the first step toward providing appropriate support and care. Take the time to educate yourself about the characteristics and challenges associated with autism spectrum disorder (ASD). Familiarize yourself with the various communication styles and sensory sensitivities that people with autism may experience.

Reputable organizations such as the Asperger/Autism Network and Autism Society offer valuable resources and information about autism. These websites provide insights into the autism community, the latest research, and practical tips for caregivers and supporters.

2. Be Patient and Understanding

Individuals with autism may face difficulties in expressing their emotions or navigating social situations. As a friend or family member, it’s essential to be patient and understanding. Avoid making assumptions about their behavior or expectations about how they should respond in specific situations.

Give them the time and space they need to process information and communicate their thoughts. Avoid pressuring them into social interactions they may find overwhelming. Respect their boundaries and remember that different people with autism may have varying needs and preferences.

3. Practice Effective Communication

Clear and concise communication is essential when interacting with someone who has autism. Use straightforward language, avoid sarcasm, and be direct in your conversations. Non-verbal cues, such as body language and facial expressions, may be challenging for individuals with autism to interpret accurately. Therefore, focus on using verbal communication as much as possible.

Additionally, some people with autism with ASD have difficulty initiating or maintaining eye contact. Don’t misinterpret this as disinterest or disrespect. Instead, respect their comfort levels and find alternative ways to connect.

4. Offer Your Support

Offering support can go a long way in helping individuals with autism thrive. Be available to lend a helping hand or provide a listening ear when they need it. If you notice them facing specific challenges, ask if there is anything you can do to assist them.

Supporting families with a member who has autism is also crucial. Offer to help with everyday tasks, such as grocery shopping or preparing meals, which can be overwhelming for some families. Your support and empathy can make a significant difference in their lives.

5. Create an Inclusive Environment

Inclusion is vital for some adults with autism to feel accepted and valued. Be mindful of the settings and activities you engage in when spending time together. Choose environments that are less likely to overwhelm them with sensory stimuli, such as loud noises or bright lights.

If you’re planning group activities, ensure they are autism-friendly and provide accommodations when necessary. For instance, if you’re organizing a social gathering, consider designating a quiet space where someone with autism can take a break if needed.

6. Avoid Stereotyping or Stigmatizing

It’s essential to avoid stereotyping or stigmatizing individuals with autism. Every person with autism is unique, and their abilities and challenges may vary significantly. Refrain from making assumptions based on their diagnosis and treat them with the same respect and dignity as you would anyone else.

Additionally, be cautious about sharing personal information about individuals with autism without their consent. Respect their privacy and maintain confidentiality.

7. Encourage Their Interests and Strengths

Many people with autism have special interests or talents that they are passionate about. Encourage and support their hobbies and strengths, as these can be sources of joy and fulfillment for them. Engaging with their interests can also be an excellent way to bond and connect with them.


When someone you know has autism, understanding, and acceptance are the cornerstones of building a supportive and inclusive relationship. By educating yourself about autism, practicing effective communication, offering your support, and fostering an inclusive environment, you can make a positive difference in their lives. Embrace their unique qualities, celebrate their strengths, and be a compassionate friend or family member. Together, we can create a more understanding and inclusive world for those with autism.

Dr. Kenneth Roberson is an Autism Spectrum Disorder psychologist in San Francisco with over 30 years of experience.


Dr. Kenneth Roberson

Dr. Kenneth Roberson is an Adult Autism Psychologist in San Francisco with over 30 years of experience. Click below to ask a question or schedule an appointment.

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